A young Nigerian lady has set the internet ablaze after she publicly declared her reason for being deliberately mean to men who approach her. Her revelation, which has gone viral, came after a specific encounter with a man at her gym left her frustrated and wary.
In a post that has since garnered thousands of reactions on the X platform (formerly Twitter), the lady explained that her stern attitude is a direct defense mechanism. She stated that being pleasant often leads to men misinterpreting her kindness for romantic or sexual interest.
To illustrate her point, she shared a personal anecdote: “I’m always a little mean to men because if you’re too nice they’ll think you want to sleep with them. Because how is this guy at my gym inviting me over to his house? All I did was buy you Pocari sweat, bro. Are you not loved at home?”
Her post instantly opened a floodgate of mixed reactions from netizens across the country. While some users understood her perspective, others questioned her conclusion.
A user with the handle Uni_corn fired back, “But how did inviting you to his place translate to sleeping with you? Aren’t you loved at home too?”
Another user, Isdinlee_bobo, offered a different angle, stating, “It’s not really about the gift itself, it’s the thoughtfulness behind it. It shows care, effort, and genuine interest — things men don’t experience often.”
The debate intensified as more people weighed in. A user named Elizabeth shared a similar humorous experience, saying, “That was how I bought gala for one and he started calling me and asking me out. Like it’s just gala bro, why’re you so cheap?”
Meanwhile, Sabi_HR provided a pragmatic view, commenting, “Men are not wired to receive from women. It usually comes off strange rather than just being kind. Were you just being nice?”
Another netizen, Pirrip, suggested a hidden motive, saying, “Men don’t buy things for women they don’t like. Let alone a woman buying for a man. You like him, you’re just scared he’ll use you.”
The online discourse continues to rage, touching on deeper issues of kindness, modern dating, and the interpretation of simple gestures between men and women in Nigeria today.
